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Vanessa interviews Monica, an English learner from Italy, about how she has studied and what has helped her feel more comfortable using English. Monica describes beginning English in school, later restarting her studies more seriously, and wanting to communicate with people close to her. She says that shyness made some interactions difficult and that independent study suits her because she can concentrate, although studying alone also has limits. The conversation is a personal account rather than a universal formula: Monica and Vanessa discuss strategies, community, and the challenges of moving from basic communication toward more confident, less hesitant speech.

Monica explains that she wanted to go deeper in her relationships with English-speaking friends and that this gave her a reason to keep learning. She discusses studying independently, using lessons and materials, and recognizing that listening to other learners can be useful too. When learners hear mistakes, they may notice patterns they themselves could make. Monica also describes the difficulty of advancing beyond an intermediate stage: she wants to speak confidently, without hesitating or thinking too much before each sentence. The conversation acknowledges that progress requires practice and that difficulties should not become an excuse not to improve.

Vanessa asks about the learner’s experience with lessons, feedback, review, and a community of other students. Monica says that having a teacher available when questions arise is a relief, and that revisiting lesson topics and receiving feedback from other learners help her. She also mentions small goals and deadlines as a way to keep moving. Vanessa describes her role as helping learners choose from a lot of material and use it in a clearer, more direct way. The discussion emphasizes both learner independence and the value of guidance and interaction.

Useful phrases from the conversation include “start learning English seriously,” “without hesitating,” and “on the same path as me.” They help describe a change in study habits, a speaking goal, and the encouragement of learning alongside others. For practice, explain one reason you want to use English, name a study habit you can do alone, and choose one small deadline for a speaking or listening task. Monica’s experience shows how personal motivation, steady practice, and supportive feedback can work together, while each learner’s route and timing remain individual.

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Select an expression for its meaning · 0:00

Introducing Monica and her English-learning experience

hi I'm Vanessa from speak englishwith vanessa. today you are going to meet one of my awesome English students in this video I'm going to talk with a student on Skype and we're going to talk about that students English experiences how they've learned English the things that have been useful or maybe some things that haven't worked and I hope that you will learn a lot from other English Learners experiences let's get

Try it: Describe one part of your English-learning experience using a phrase from this section.

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start learning English seriously

Talking about starting to study more seriously · expression

Begin studying English with sustained attention and commitment.

Tone and use: Conversational and reflective. Use it to describe a point when casual study became a deliberate effort.

May not fit: Seriously here means with commitment, not in a solemn or humorless way.

Example“I started learning English seriously when I began preparing for work abroad.”

I felt so shy

Talking about starting to study more seriously · expression

I felt very self-conscious or nervous about interacting with other people.

Tone and use: Personal and emotionally direct. Use it to describe nervousness in a social or speaking situation.

May not fit: Shy describes a feeling or tendency; it does not mean someone is incapable of communicating.

Example“I felt so shy at first, but the group made me feel welcome.”

go deep in our relationships

Talking about starting to study more seriously · expression

Develop a closer or more meaningful relationship with someone.

Tone and use: Personal and reflective. Use go deep to describe building emotional closeness or discussing important topics.

May not fit: The phrase can sound intense; “get closer” is a lighter alternative.

Example“Sharing that experience helped us go deeper in our friendship.”

study alone

Describing shyness and communicating with friends · expression

Learn by yourself without a teacher or study partner present.

Tone and use: Neutral and common. Use it to describe independent study.

May not fit: Alone does not necessarily mean lonely; it can simply mean without others.

Example“I study alone during the week and practise speaking with a partner on Saturdays.”

I can focus

Describing shyness and communicating with friends · expression

I am able to give my attention to a task.

Tone and use: Neutral and common. Use it to describe your ability to concentrate.

May not fit: Focus on is also common when naming the task or subject.

Example“I can focus better when I turn off notifications.”

without hesitating

Balancing independent study with speaking practice · expression

Without pausing because of uncertainty or nervousness.

Tone and use: Neutral and descriptive. Use it when describing smooth, confident speech or action.

May not fit: It does not mean speaking carelessly; confidence can still include thoughtful pauses.

Example“She answered without hesitating because she knew the material well.”

a relief for me

Moving toward confident speech without hesitation · expression

Something that reduces worry or makes a situation feel easier.

Tone and use: Warm and personal. Use it when support, reassurance, or a solution eases your concern.

May not fit: Relief describes the speaker’s feeling; avoid assuming everyone feels the same way.

Example“Knowing I could ask questions later was a relief for me.”

not an excuse not to improve

Discussing lessons, teaching style, and support · expression

A difficulty may explain a challenge, but it should not become a reason to stop making progress.

Tone and use: Encouraging and gently challenging. Use this pattern to acknowledge an obstacle while emphasizing continued effort.

May not fit: Avoid using it to shame someone facing a genuine barrier; pair it with practical support.

Example“A busy schedule is difficult, but it does not have to be an excuse not to improve.”

learn from you

Discussing lessons, teaching style, and support · expression

Gain knowledge or confidence by observing your experience or hearing your perspective.

Tone and use: Encouraging and collaborative. Use it to tell someone that their contribution can help another learner.

May not fit: It does not mean the learner must be an expert; sharing an experience can still help.

Example“Other new employees can learn from you when you share how you solved the problem.”

review what you teach

Learning from other learners and their mistakes · expression

Look back over the material a teacher has presented.

Tone and use: Neutral and educational. Use review + material when studying it again after a lesson.

May not fit: Review means revisit or practise, not necessarily evaluate the teacher.

Example“I review what you teach before the next class.”

on the same path as me

Reviewing lessons and getting feedback · expression

Working toward a similar goal or going through a similar experience.

Tone and use: Supportive and community-minded. Use it to express solidarity with people who share your learning journey.

May not fit: It does not mean everyone has the same background or pace.

Example“It helps to learn with people who are on the same path as me.”

a mini deadline

Reviewing lessons and getting feedback · expression

A small, near-term target that gives you a reason to complete a task soon.

Tone and use: Informal and motivating. Use it for a manageable checkpoint rather than a major final deadline.

May not fit: Mini deadline is casual; use milestone or short-term target in formal writing.

Example“I set a mini deadline to finish one listening exercise by Friday.”

guide you to use it

Reviewing lessons and getting feedback · expression

Show someone a clear or practical way to use something.

Tone and use: Helpful and instructional. Use guide + someone + to + verb when explaining how support helps them act.

May not fit: Guide suggests support, not control; the learner still makes their own choices.

Example“The coach guided me to use the new technique in a real conversation.”

that's excellent to hear

Reviewing lessons and getting feedback · expression

That is very good or encouraging news.

Tone and use: Warm and supportive. Use it to respond positively when someone shares progress or a result.

May not fit: It is a conversational response; in formal writing, state specifically what is encouraging.

Example“You found a study routine that works? That’s excellent to hear.”

understand you the first time

Using small goals and deadlines for steady practice · expression

Comprehend what someone says without needing them to repeat it.

Tone and use: Common and practical. Use it when discussing clarity or successful communication.

May not fit: It is a goal, not a promise that every listener will always understand immediately.

Example“Please speak clearly so the new client can understand you the first time.”

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What it means · “start learning English seriously”

Someone changes from occasional practice to regular committed study. What did they do?