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How to Speak English Without Fear [My #1 TIP]

Build speaking confidence gradually: practise alone, talk with supportive English learners, then work up to casual and professional conversations.

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Vanessa records this lesson on a sunny beach in Costa Rica and uses the relaxed setting to introduce a practical way to reduce fear when speaking English. The lesson is for learners who feel tense in different situations, from practising alone to speaking with a stranger, joining a class, talking with native speakers, or using English at work. Her central advice is to begin with the lowest-pressure situation and build confidence gradually instead of forcing yourself to start with the hardest conversation.

She compares several levels of speaking pressure. A business meeting may feel especially stressful because you want to represent your company well and express yourself completely. Approaching a stranger while travelling to ask for directions or find a restaurant can also feel intimidating, though the consequences are usually smaller. An English class may feel safer because the other learners understand the nervousness of using another language. Practising at home is an even gentler starting point: repeat a video aloud, shadow the speaker, and get used to hearing your own voice in English.

From there, Vanessa recommends moving up step by step. Speaking with another English learner can help because you may be in the same boat and understand each other's uncertainty. When you feel ready, try a casual conversation with a supportive English speaker. The experience of understanding one another and having a real conversation can provide a boost of confidence. That confidence can then help prepare you for presentations, client calls, and other workplace communication.

Useful expressions include “start small,” a reminder to choose a manageable first action, and “little by little,” which describes steady progress over time. “Work up to the next level” captures the gradual progression Vanessa recommends. The lesson also models “in the same boat” for shared challenges and “represent your company well” for professional communication.

At the end, Vanessa guides viewers through a confidence-building sentence: “I can speak English confidently without stress.” She encourages learners to repeat it and practise at their own pace. The core takeaway is not that speaking will never feel stressful, but that consistent, manageable practice can make the next challenge feel more possible.

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Vanessa sets up a beach-side lesson about relaxing while speaking English.

Hi, I'm Vanessa from SpeakEnglishWithVanessa.com. Are you ready to ? I hope so. . Today I'm on the beach, and it's very sunny and very hot, even though it's seven o'clock in the morning. Costa Rica, it's beautiful, and what better place to relax than at the beach, right? But you can't always be at the beach when you're speaking English. So today, I want to give you my top tip for helping you to relax, de-stress and feel comfortable when you're speaking English. I know that a lot of you use English for your job.

Try it: Name one situation where you want to feel more relaxed speaking English.

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relax when you speak English

Vanessa sets up a beach-side lesson about relaxing while speaking English. · expression

Feel calm while speaking English.

Tone and use: Friendly and encouraging. Use it to describe the goal of reducing tension during a conversation.

May not fit: It describes a goal, not a guarantee that all anxiety disappears.

Example“I want to relax when I speak English with new people.”

Let's talk about it

Vanessa sets up a beach-side lesson about relaxing while speaking English. · expression

Let's discuss the subject.

Tone and use: Conversational transition. Use it to introduce a topic or invite discussion.

May not fit: In formal writing, name the subject directly.

Example“You said the interview makes you nervous. Let's talk about it.”

represent your company well

She explains why business communication can feel high pressure. · expression

Create a positive impression of your company through your behavior.

Tone and use: Professional and neutral. Use it when discussing professional conduct or communication.

May not fit: This is about how your actions reflect on an organization.

Example“I want to represent our company well during the client call.”

express yourself completely

She explains why business communication can feel high pressure. · expression

Communicate your ideas and feelings fully.

Tone and use: Encouraging. Use it when discussing communicating freely or clearly.

May not fit: It does not require using perfect grammar.

Example“With a little more practice, I can express myself completely in meetings.”

approach a stranger

She compares the stress of approaching strangers while traveling. · expression

Go up to and begin speaking with someone you do not know.

Tone and use: Neutral. Use it when describing how you start a conversation with an unfamiliar person.

May not fit: Consider safety and context when approaching someone.

Example“I was nervous to approach a stranger and ask for directions.”

surrounded by

She compares the stress of approaching strangers while traveling. · expression

Having people or things all around you.

Tone and use: Neutral. Use it with people or things that form an environment.

May not fit: It describes the environment, not whether you feel supported.

Example“I felt more comfortable because I was surrounded by other learners.”

exactly the situation

She compares the stress of approaching strangers while traveling. · expression

The same circumstances or context being discussed.

Tone and use: Emphatic and conversational. Use it when clarifying that something matches a particular context.

May not fit: Make sure the situation has already been identified.

Example“The class understood exactly the situation I was in.”

kind of nervousness

An English class may feel safer because the other learners understand the situation. · expression

A particular feeling of worry or tension.

Tone and use: Conversational. Use it to describe a specific type of nervousness.

May not fit: Name the cause if your listener needs more detail.

Example“I felt a kind of nervousness before the interview.”

start at the easiest level

Practising aloud at home is a low-pressure way to begin. · expression

Begin with the least difficult stage.

Tone and use: Supportive and practical. Use it when recommending a manageable first step.

May not fit: The easiest level is personal and depends on the learner.

Example“If presentations feel scary, start at the easiest level by practising alone.”

shadow or repeat

Practising aloud at home is a low-pressure way to begin. · expression

Copy spoken language by saying it along with or after a speaker.

Tone and use: Instructional. Use it for pronunciation and listening practice.

May not fit: Shadowing usually follows speech closely; repeating can happen after a pause.

Example“I shadow or repeat short clips to practise rhythm.”

get used to hearing your own voice

Practising aloud at home is a low-pressure way to begin. · expression

Become more comfortable with the sound of your voice.

Tone and use: Conversational and reassuring. Use it when describing gradual familiarity through speaking practice.

May not fit: This familiarity is gradual; one practice session may not change how it feels.

Example“Recording short answers helped me get used to hearing my own voice.”

work up to the next level

She describes how solo practice helps learners progress gradually. · expression

Gradually reach a more challenging stage.

Tone and use: Encouraging. Use it when progress happens step by step.

May not fit: It suggests gradual preparation, not an immediate jump.

Example“I practised with a friend before I worked up to the next level.”

mastered speaking with yourself

She describes how solo practice helps learners progress gradually. · expression

Become comfortable with practising speech alone.

Tone and use: Instructional. Use it for reaching confidence with a foundational practice step.

May not fit: Mastered is relative here; the lesson means feeling ready to progress.

Example“After I mastered speaking with myself, I joined a conversation group.”

in the same boat

Speaking with peers who share the challenge can reduce fear. · expression

In the same difficult or challenging situation as someone else.

Tone and use: Informal and reassuring. Use it to show shared experience or mutual understanding.

May not fit: It commonly refers to a shared challenge, not necessarily identical details.

Example“We were both new to the course, so we were in the same boat.”

get over your fear

Speaking with peers who share the challenge can reduce fear. · expression

Gradually overcome fear or anxiety.

Tone and use: Conversational. Use it when describing progress beyond a fear.

May not fit: Do not imply that anxiety can always be removed instantly.

Example“Practising with a supportive partner helped me get over my fear of speaking.”

a great next step

Vanessa recommends moving toward conversations with supportive English learners. · expression

A useful action to take after the current stage.

Tone and use: Positive and practical. Use it to recommend a logical progression.

May not fit: Choose a step that fits the learner's readiness.

Example“Joining a weekly speaking group is a great next step.”

build your confidence

Vanessa recommends moving toward conversations with supportive English learners. · expression

Develop greater belief in your ability over time.

Tone and use: Positive and encouraging. Use it for practice or experiences that increase confidence.

May not fit: Confidence grows gradually and can vary by situation.

Example“Small conversations helped build my confidence at work.”

a real conversation

A casual exchange can become a real conversation. · expression

An authentic exchange of ideas between people.

Tone and use: Neutral and positive. Use it to distinguish genuine interaction from isolated practice.

May not fit: It does not need to be long or perfectly fluent.

Example“Ordering lunch gave me a chance to have a real conversation.”

boost of confidence

Understanding one another can give a learner a boost of confidence. · expression

A noticeable increase in confidence.

Tone and use: Positive and conversational. Use it for an experience that makes someone feel more capable.

May not fit: A boost may be temporary; continued practice helps.

Example“Understanding the reply gave me a boost of confidence.”

move on

Understanding one another can give a learner a boost of confidence. · expression

Continue to a new stage, task, or topic.

Tone and use: Neutral and common. Use it for progressing after completing or practising something.

May not fit: It can also mean changing topics; context clarifies the meaning.

Example“Once I felt ready, I moved on to speaking with clients.”

prepared yourself well

Understanding one another can give a learner a boost of confidence. · expression

Got ready through useful practice or planning.

Tone and use: Encouraging and practical. Use it when preparation supports a later challenge.

May not fit: Preparation helps, but it cannot control every outcome.

Example“I prepared myself well by practising the presentation aloud.”

little by little

She encourages learners to move toward work-related English when ready. · expression

Gradually, in small amounts or stages.

Tone and use: Conversational. Use it to describe steady progress over time.

May not fit: It describes gradual change rather than a precise schedule.

Example“Little by little, I became more comfortable speaking up.”

start small

Small steps help learners prepare for more demanding speaking situations. · expression

Begin with a manageable action or goal.

Tone and use: Encouraging and practical. Use it when a larger goal feels intimidating.

May not fit: Small steps should still move toward the larger goal.

Example“I started small by introducing myself to one classmate.”

repeat an important phrase

Vanessa invites viewers to repeat an important sentence while watching the beach. · expression

Say a useful sentence again for practice or emphasis.

Tone and use: Instructional. Use it when practising a phrase that matters in context.

May not fit: An important phrase should fit the learner's actual goal.

Example“Let's repeat an important phrase before the role-play.”

take a deep breath

Vanessa invites viewers to repeat an important sentence while watching the beach. · expression

Breathe in deeply, often to pause or relax.

Tone and use: Calming and common. Use it when encouraging someone to calm down or prepare.

May not fit: It is a simple calming suggestion, not medical advice.

Example“I took a deep breath before I answered the question.”

without stress

She guides learners through a confidence-building sentence. · expression

Without tension or worry.

Tone and use: Reassuring. Use it to describe the desired manner of doing something.

May not fit: This is an aspiration; some stress can be normal.

Example“I want to speak with confidence and without stress.”

staring directly into the sun

Vanessa adds humorous behind-the-scenes comments about filming outdoors. · expression

Looking straight toward the sun.

Tone and use: Informal and descriptive. Use it to describe someone's gaze or a humorous filming mistake.

May not fit: Looking at the sun can harm your eyes; this phrase is descriptive.

Example“I realized I was staring directly into the sun during the outdoor interview.”

stole my snack

She mentions the monkeys, her free e-book, and the channel sign-off. · expression

Took my snack without permission.

Tone and use: Informal and humorous. Use it in a playful way to say someone took food.

May not fit: Use it playfully; for a serious theft, be more direct.

Example“The dog stole my snack while I was answering the phone.”

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Use it in a sentence · “start small”

A presentation feels intimidating. What is a good first move based on Vanessa's advice?